About sex in long term relationships

Often times, long term couples tend to loose passion. Or so it seems, from a high level perspective.

There are couple of aspects to this that I will explain below.

First of all, there are the stages of love:

• Falling in love - the phase in which it may look as everything occurs naturally, especially regarding sexual life

• The negotiation period in which couples might enter a power struggle - meaning they would fight for power, thus would lack vulnerability in certain moments - One says that a lot of relationships dissipate in this stage

• And the ones that get further and manage to become flexible enough, enter the love phase, where a more profound attachment happens. And this is long term love.

  Now, this is what some theories say. In reality these 3 stages might mingle each other, especially from a certain age when our life experience is...let's say, broader. And not necessarily wiser, because we're accumulated also adverse experiences that makes us avoid certain behaviours or emotions or perpetuate certain patterns.

  
  

  And to return to our main point from this article, the passion isn't lost. Just that it might not be that intense, as in the 'being in love' phase when everything is very intense to close and separation cycles, and due to novelty, to discovering the other in a new light.

To be continued